The Wings of Enneagram 3

3wings1It’s time for another wings distinction video!  I’ve been somewhat surprised by the large amount of views on these videos in particular– it seems that people really want to know more about each Enneagram type’s two main varieties!  I’m really glad to see that, honestly, as I think one of the biggest mistakes one can make with the Enneagram is to be too shallow– learning about the specific variety of a core type that you are can be very, very helpful to growth!  Especially when it comes to using our knowledge of the Enneagram to better understand and interact with others, it’s kind of big deal to get the specific nuances of our loved ones right!  Wing is a big part of that, and I’m excited to continue exploring it here.

To follow the order of my previous posts, The Achiever is up next– 3w2 vs 3w4!  Check it out, and as always let me know if you have questions or insight to share.  Final note: I realized I have been covering a lot of heart type material lately, so will be switching gears for my next Misidentification video.  You can stay tuned by following me here or on Instagram, Facebook or Youtube!

The Wings of Enneagram 3

The Wings of Enneagram 2

Today I’m talking about the wings of the Helper and how to discern between the two, both in regards to motivation and from an experience standpoint.  Check it out, and feel free to let me know whether this rings true for you– if you are a two, or even if you have someone in your life who is!

Check back in a week or so, for my next misidentification video too!  You can also stay up to speed with my work by following on Instagram or Facebook– as always feel free to reach out at with questions or comments!

Peace + Hope, friends!

The Wings of Enneagram 2

Instincts: 4

After talking in the last post about the basics of the Individualist, let’s look at the instinctual variants and how they apply to 4 specifically. If you need a refresher on instinctual variants and what that means, check out my first post on the topic.


When talking about instincts, it’s important to realize how the same instinct can look different from core type to core type. The general descriptions of the instincts (above) are much less specific than when those instincts are applied to a specific Enneagram type.

The shame, focus on suffering and envy, and introspective nature of type 4, manifest with each instinct in a unique way.


Though different, it’s easy to see how the first (general descriptions) factor into the type specific ones.  As aforementioned, all 4’s will probably relate somewhat to all three above descriptions, but more strongly with one or two.  This brings us to the concept of Instinctual Stack, which denotes the order of an individual’s instinctual need.  For instance, Sp/So tells us that Self Preservation is preferred/needed most, So is auxiliary and Sx is the “blind spot”.  I do also think looking into the instincts of your wing (especially if it is heavy) is important to behold the whole picture.

Other great sources for more detailed reading on the instincts, are The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut, these descriptions originally from (the now inactive) Ocean Moonshine, and the work of early Enneagram scholar, Claudio Naranjo (notes on his work on the instincts).

Have any questions about instincts, Enneagram or typing? Leave a comment below and I’ll get back to you!

*Sidebar: Clearly, these descriptions are getting longer the more I do. I think I’ll have to go back and flesh out 1-3 more eventually, so they all contain equally complete descriptions– I guess I’ve just gained steam along the way! 🙂

Instincts: 4

Enneagram 4

Let’s take a brief look today at Enneagram type 4, the Individualist.  Here are the basics (feel free to click for a closer look).


The Individualist is called so because an innate belief that to be valuable, one must have an authentic identity, and to be authentic, one must be unique, different or broken. In other words, 4’s tend to relate more to darker emotions because they feel more true to them than lighter feelings. Envy, the passion of 4, manifests in a negative focus on what’s missing, or “what I don’t have”.  Enneagram 4 is often called emotionally strong, because of their familiarity and comfort with dark emotions, but also of their tendency to over-analyze their emotions– where 8 is the master of the physical world, 4 is the master of the emotional realm.

Shame is a large theme for all heart types (2, 3 and 4) but because 4’s are painfully self aware/conscious, they feel and express this more outwardly.  This can manifest in withdrawing the self from others for fear of being “too broken or insignificant”, and comes about from a repeated process of failing to convey “the true depths and complexity of the self” (Ocean Moonshine).  Because 4’s experience repeated failure to live up to their own ideals, and that of the culture, they develop a general distaste and disdain for “common” or “ordinary” things– which is part of why they associate authenticity with uniqueness.  As with many of the types, this creates a paradox: 4’s desire authenticity, but in their disdain for the normal, they can become quite elitist.

I find it important to note that while 4’s tend to be creative, this quality is found in many other types as well!  Most of the 4 mistypes I’ve seen have been at least somewhat based in this misconception.

If you have questions about Enneagram type 4, feel free to comment below.  Otherwise, look out for my post on the instincts of 4 coming soon! 🙂

Enneagram 4