Hey friends! I’ve decided to create some “shorts” to fill in the time (that I am slowly editing) between my longer videos, and I realized that perfect bite-sized topic is wings. As usual, I’ll start from the beginning with 1, the Reformer. Check it out, and watch for more short videos addressing other wing differences in the future! 🙂
Hey Enneagram friends! After quite the gap, I’ve finally posted another YouTube Enneagram Girl video, this time examining some recent nuances I’ve noticed about misidentification between 6 and 9! I touch on some of the differences, similarities, health paths and even venture into correlation with MBTI a bit! 😉
Check it out, and feel free to ask questions if you have any! I hope to be creating more and more videos in the months to come, so keep an eye out.
This, like the combo before, is a pretty common confusion. Peacemakers and Individualists can behave and look very similar, even having kindred ideals. Both tend to be emotionally intuitive, deep thinkers, drawn to nature and the creative world, and usually are somewhat socially withdrawn. This surface commonality, however, is dwarfed by the inner differences between the two.
9’s are conflict averse creatures, and tend to lay low in stormy waters. 4’s on the other hand, are one of the three types dubbed reactive in the Enneagram– which means they are quick to express their viewpoint, feelings, etc. Peacemakers are known to idealize the world and people around them, and thus can become self forgetting, neglecting their own personal development, interests and sense of self, in order to maintain peace with others. Individualists on the other hand, spend exorbitant amounts of time analyzing their feelings, identity, preferences and general inner world. These very different tendencies land 9’s and 4’s with two very different predicaments: 9’s become detached from who they are, building stubborn resentment in silence against those around them. Conversely, 4’s end up alienating those around them out of their self absorbed fixation on authentic identity. Individualists have issues with dissatisfaction, emotional volatility and shame, where Peacemakers struggle more with issues of apathy, resentment and anxiety.
More often than not, this misidentification happens when Peacemakers mistake themselves as Individualists (not the other way around). Because their own needs, preferences and defining characteristics are often muted to 9’s, it’s easy to understand why they tend be more prone to mistyping. It’s interesting to note also, that either potental wing for a 9 (1 or 8) has definite connections to 4 as well– making it even more probable that a 9 might mistype as a 4.
As with any type misidentification, one of the best tools to determine accuracy are the other components of type: integration when health focused, disintegration when under stress, and even wings. 4 and 9 have very different health journeys, and stress points. You can read more about them here: 4 | 9.
Have questions? Feel free to leave a comment or shoot me an email at email@example.com, and tune in next time for my misidentification post on types 1 and 6!
A note on seeing the images closer (to read all the quotes): click the image once, which should open a new page, and then click to see the full sized image.
Last, but certainly not least, we have the gut (or body) types. These three types are physical beings, that share the common themes of Anger and Control. As with the other centers, these themes effect each gut type in a unique way.
Challengers tend to exercise Anger freely, and seek mostly to control (or exert their will on) their environment, and those in it. While 8’s see this as survival, those on the receiving end may see it as outright sadism. The externalized Anger of an 8 is generally expressed without thinking, and like a storm, is here and gone. Internal message: you must control everything to survive.
You can check out my overview of 8 basics here.
Peacemakers are often unaware of Anger themes in their lives, because of their tendency to repress, and even forget feeling it. 9’s are occasionally called “self forgetting”, in that they negate any of their own emotions that might cause unrest– keeping the peace by smothering their less pleasant feelings. Sometimes this is referred to as “numbing out”. Peacemakers seek to Control out of silence, like a boulder in a stream. Internal message: You must control your feelings to stay connected to others.
You can check out my overview of 9 basics here.
Reformers are usually aware of their Anger, in that they are constantly reigning it in. While 8’s express it without restraint, and 9’s repress to a point of forgetting, 1’s walk the line in between– a daily dance of keeping the lid on the boiling pot. Reformers hold themselves and others to high moral standards, and thus do not often allow unbridled expression of emotion. It is this form of Controlled repression, though, that causes the boil over effect that 1’s sometimes experience. A too taught rope will fray. Internal message: You must control yourself in order to be good.
You can check out my overview of 1 basics here.
As always, feel free to reach out with questions or comments! I’d love for you to share this project, but please do not use the images without my express consent. Thanks!
Interesting in participating in one of my upcoming projects? If you know your Enneagram type and live in the Chicago area, I’d love to hear from you! My exploration of the Enneagram is ongoing, and I’d love to include more participants. 🙂 If that’s you, send me an email at Enneagramgirl@yahoo.com.
So much thanks to all of my awesome participants, and friends who helped with interviewing! Photo credit for 1, 2, 4 and 7 goes to the lovely Jamie Gray, while 6 and 9 are the work of Tony Au. All quotes are the words of my participants, and the writing/artwork is my own. Thanks everyone, I couldn’t have pulled it off without you!
When talking about instincts, it’s important to realize how the same instinct can look different from core type to core type. The general descriptions of the instincts (above) are much less specific than when those instincts are applied to a specific Enneagram type.
The passive mindset, self forgetting tendencies and tranquil nature of type 9 manifest with each instinct in a unique way.
Though different, it’s easy to see how the first (general descriptions) factor into the type specific ones. As aforementioned, all 9’s will probably relate somewhat to all three above descriptions, but more strongly with one or two. This brings us to the concept of Instinctual Stack, which denotes the order of an individual’s instinctual need. For instance, Sp/So tells us that Self Preservation is preferred/needed most, So is auxiliary and Sx is the “blind spot”. I do also think looking into the instincts of your wing (especially if it is heavy) is important to behold the whole picture.
Other great sources for more detailed reading on the instincts, are The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut, these descriptions originally from (the now inactive) Ocean Moonshine, and the work of early Enneagram scholar, Claudio Naranjo (notes on his work on the instincts).
Have questions or thoughts about the instincts of Enneagram 9? Feel free to leave a comment below! A note on what’s next at Enneagram Girl, I am so excited to post a project in the next week or so that I have been working on for quite some time. The project is photo and interview based, and involved men and women of each Enneagram core type. Make sure to subscribe, or keep your eyes peeled if you’d like to check it out! 🙂
We’ve arrived at type 9, the Peacemaker! Let’s check out the basics. Feel free to click the image for a closer look!
Peacemakers often seem like very mellow individuals, but their wells tend to run deep. The greatest fear of an Enneagram 9, is the potential separation from others, specifically people they love. They are said to feel very connected, both to other people, but also to the natural world around them– this being a silent, almost intuitive connection. To protect this bond from being broken, Peacemakers live up to their name by lying low. Several 9’s I know have used very similar language around their fear of ever being disruptive to others– words, including “obnoxious”, “loud”, and “annoying” have painted the picture of what they would rather never be perceived as.
Peacemakers are found in the Gut (or Intuitive) center of the Enneagram, which is indicative of issues in regards to anger. 9’s tend to repress their anger, to the point that they are often unaware of it– this is in order to avoid the aforementioned fears of disrupting harmony. In order to deny (or forget) their negative feelings, 9’s often “numb out”. This is why many Peacemakers feel (within themselves, and to others) to be very “light”, soft, or low energy.
This brings us to the core passion (or sin) of Sloth, which is something of a cop out. By lying low, or fading into the background, Peacemakers often negate both themselves and others. What feels to them like staying connected in the moment, is really holding the inner self at bay (even from themselves).
Health-seeking 9’s however, can be among the wisest and deeply understanding individuals. When they are able to ground themselves in their bodies, “remembering” their preferences and feelings, they will cease to “be blown about by the wind” so to speak. Integrating Peacemakers are active participants in life, rather than passive bystanders who merely ride the current that others produce.
If you have thoughts or questions about Enneagram 9, feel free to comment below! Be on the lookout for my next post on the Instinctual varieties of the Peacemaker, which will be my last overview post! Following that, I’ll be posting a photo/interview based project I’ve put together on the Enneagram, which I am so excited to share! Stay tuned, friends. 🙂