Enneagram Wings of 6

Today I’m touching base on the differences between the wings of 6!  Check out the video for futher insight into these distinct varieties of the Loyalist, and feel to chime in or shoot me an email as always!

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Enneagram Wings of 6

Misidentification: 4 vs. 7 (video)

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Hey again friends!  It’s been awhile, but the next Mis-ID video is done and posted!  Check out some discussion of the similarities and differences between the Individualist and Enthusiast– I bet there are more similarities that you realize! 😉

See you on the flip side for the wings of 6 video, and as always feel free to comment or reach out to me via email!

Misidentification: 4 vs. 7 (video)

Misidentification: 7 vs. 9

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Hey friends, I’ve just finished uploading a new Misidentification video, this time on the differences and similarities between the Enthusiast and the Peacemaker!  Check it out and chime in if you have thoughts! 🙂

Be sure to check back in for my next video, on the wings of 4.  See you then!

Misidentification: 7 vs. 9

Misidentification: 3 + 7

misid_37Enneagram 3’s and 7’s can have a similar energy about them– external, positive, fast paced and people oriented. I know a 3 who has called herself a “false 7” because it’s what many identified her as at first. At the core though, Achievers and Enthusiasts reasons for doing things could not be more different. 3’s seek love and approval, 7’s seek stimulation and distraction. If there were two Olympians that were these types, they would compete with different motivation– the 7 to see the world, and have varied experiences, and the 3 to prove their worth by winning.  One is driven, the other more happy-go-lucky.

Enneagram 3 is a heart type, and struggles with issues of identity– because they have always tried to live up to the expectations of others (donning masks to do so) they often feel that they don’t really know their true selves. It’s said that they sacrifice their heart’s desires at a young age to live up to the ideals of their culture.

Enneagram 7 is a head type, and struggles with issues of fear– specifically of their own deep or negative feelings, or those of others. Enthusiasts are the true optimists, and choose to distract themselves away from negativity by seeking constant positive stimulation. They are continually looking for things to distract them from their own thoughts and feelings. This, of course, is hard to sustain, so 7’s bounce from thing to thing, not staying focused very long on any one.

I actually often use the term bouncy to describe the physicality of Enthusiasts. There is an energizer bunny type of vibe, distracted, bright and effervescent. Conversely, 3’s lack the childlike, open nature of 7’s– coming across in a more polished, charming and salesman-like manner. Because Enthusiasts value experiences over appearance, their physical presentation is usually an afterthought– or if distinctive, adopted for the sake of novelty, or variety.  3’s on the other hand find physical presentation of the utmost importance. Achievers generally put a lot of thought into their appearance, modeling it after popular culture, or people they believe are winners— another product and manifestation of not really knowing who they are.

The sins (or passions) of 3 and 7 are also quite different from each other. The former struggling with Deceit (of self and others) and the latter with Gluttony– the overdoing of, and overindulging in all things: food, social activities, hobbies, you name it.

Clearly there are some surface level similarities between these types, but a lot of core differences.  For more information on this topic, check out the Enneagram Institute’s overview of the differences between any two types and misidentification in general (which can be very helpful when determining type).

Tune in next time for my next Misidentification pair: 4 and 9!

Misidentification: 3 + 7

Misidentification

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My study and observation over the last four years, has included reading both books and people– and in the end, cross referencing the two. As with any complex topic or system, there is much confusion and misunderstanding afoot in regards to the Enneagram. Understanding these hiccups and why people might be prone to make them is one of my favorite topics, in part because it’s a puzzle within a puzzle. True understanding has the ability to determine what something is, but also what something is not (and the why behind both).

In Biology, I imagine this looks something like the comparison between a butterfly and a moth. Seeing that both have two sets of wings and a similar body shape is not enough, and might lead a casual observer to assume both creatures are close enough to be the same. Many fall into a similar pit when trying to understand the inner workings of others– if they look, talk and behave like your friend Rob, you might assume they have a similar personality structure. Remember that adage about not judging a book by its’ cover? Whether with insects or with human identity, that advice rings true. If a butterfly is too complex to judge on sight, then certainly humans are as well– even when trying to sort out ourselves, we often miss the mark! Actions are clear, but with the Enneagram, we are looking below the surface at motivations, sin patterns and themes. That is when a butterfly and a moth become totally different animals!

It’s important to note that misidentification is a problem, not for the sake of right and wrong, but because the Enneagram is only an effective tool when we authentically identify. Because this system is rooted in sin patterns, the point is to understand that dark side of ourselves in order to move towards health– realizing these things about ourselves should be a humbling experience. Unfortunately, I have found the two main culprits of misidentification are pride/ego and lack of knowledge.  Either an individual feels less threatened (or more flattered) by a type other than their actual type, or they are assigning a label to themselves with little to no understanding of what that label means– the latter is extremely common, and usually fallen into by those unfamiliar with the system. This is the main reason that I am not a proponent of test taking without follow-up study: the Enneagram was intended to further self awareness and personal growth, something that is simply not attainable by answering a fifty question test.

While many people misidentify between core types, it is also very common for individuals to mistype as their wing (a 3w4 mistyping as a 4, for example), or as one of the two points on their health spectrum. Because the possible misidentification scenarios are many, I’ll be covering the most probable and specific cases that I’ve personally witnessed. Check back on Monday for my first post on the subject, Misidentification: 3 and 7!

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Enneagram 9

We’ve arrived at type 9, the Peacemaker! Let’s check out the basics. Feel free to click the image for a closer look!

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Peacemakers often seem like very mellow individuals, but their wells tend to run deep. The greatest fear of an Enneagram 9, is the potential separation from others, specifically people they love.  They are said to feel very connected, both to other people, but also to the natural world around them– this being a silent, almost intuitive connection. To protect this bond from being broken, Peacemakers live up to their name by lying low. Several 9’s I know have used very similar language around their fear of ever being disruptive to others– words, including “obnoxious”, “loud”, and “annoying” have painted the picture of what they would rather never be perceived as.

Peacemakers are found in the Gut (or Intuitive) center of the Enneagram, which is indicative of issues in regards to anger. 9’s tend to repress their anger, to the point that they are often unaware of it– this is in order to avoid the aforementioned fears of disrupting harmony. In order to deny (or forget) their negative feelings, 9’s often “numb out”. This is why many Peacemakers feel (within themselves, and to others) to be very “light”, soft, or low energy.

This brings us to the core passion (or sin) of Sloth, which is something of a cop out. By lying low, or fading into the background, Peacemakers often negate both themselves and others. What feels to them like staying connected in the moment, is really holding the inner self at bay (even from themselves).

Health-seeking 9’s however, can be among the wisest and deeply understanding individuals. When they are able to ground themselves in their bodies, “remembering” their preferences and feelings, they will cease to “be blown about by the wind” so to speak. Integrating Peacemakers are active participants in life, rather than passive bystanders who merely ride the current that others produce.

If you have thoughts or questions about Enneagram 9, feel free to comment below!  Be on the lookout for my next post on the Instinctual varieties of the Peacemaker, which will be my last overview post!  Following that, I’ll be posting a photo/interview based project I’ve put together on the Enneagram, which I am so excited to share! Stay tuned, friends. 🙂

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