It’s time for another wings distinction video! I’ve been somewhat surprised by the large amount of views on these videos in particular– it seems that people really want to know more about each Enneagram type’s two main varieties! I’m really glad to see that, honestly, as I think one of the biggest mistakes one can make with the Enneagram is to be too shallow– learning about the specific variety of a core type that you are can be very, very helpful to growth! Especially when it comes to using our knowledge of the Enneagram to better understand and interact with others, it’s kind of big deal to get the specific nuances of our loved ones right! Wing is a big part of that, and I’m excited to continue exploring it here.
To follow the order of my previous posts, The Achiever is up next– 3w2 vs 3w4! Check it out, and as always let me know if you have questions or insight to share. Final note: I realized I have been covering a lot of heart type material lately, so will be switching gears for my next Misidentification video. You can stay tuned by following me here or on Instagram, Facebook or Youtube!
A new full length video is up on the Enneagram Girl YouTube Channel, and this time I’m touching on the main differences that help us to discern between 3 and 5– this inspired by a conversation I had with some friends last night! Check it out and also the info graphics and instincts for the Achiever and the Investigator may be helpful!
As always, feel free to reach out to me at email@example.com if you have questions or thoughts. 🙂
Today I’ll be covering the basic outline of Enneagram 3, often called the Acheiver. Feel free to click to get a closer look!
I think the clearest explanation of what a 3 desires, is to win. Whatever it is, the Achiever is a master at becoming, or adapting whatever they need to in order to get what they want in life– the term chameleon is often used, and I think it fits well. 3’s are said to sacrifice their “heart’s desire” early in life, in order to become who or what their culture deems valuable, because of this they often have trouble identifying who they truly are. That ability to alter the self (don masks) in order to succeed, waters down their core identity over time– which often results in an artificial, “salesman” type of default presentation.
It is important to note, that the passion of Deceit (of self and others) is very commonly a subconscious one (just as pride and manipulation are for a 2) in type 3 individuals. Charm is a very apparent characteristic of most 3’s, and tends to blind others to patterns of deceit at work.
3’s tend to be very competitive (hence “the Acheiver”) and those I have known have a general desire to be the best at everything, or whatever they are currently doing. That said, people of this type do model themselves after the culture, and tend to latch on to specific ideals (people, concepts, vocations, etc.) to define themselves and fill their identity void.
A note on wings that I’ve often found (amusingly) true: while a 3 with a 2 wing will burn themselves out completely doing and trying to achieve the goal, I’ve noted that 3’s with a 4 wing tend to be more managerial, distributing tasks to others in order to get things done– they have minions, really. Haha. 😉
If you have questions about Enneagram 3, feel free to ask in the comments! Stay tuned for my next post on the instinctual varieties of the Acheiver.